My first crush was a boy in a lot of my classes at school. I carved our initials in the tree outside of my house.
I met my high school boyfriend when I was 17 at my debutante ball after party. We had our first kiss on the beach.
The first time fell in love he was ten years older than me, we only dated for three months and it hurt like hell when he dumped me. He said that I was too young and needed to live my life, which I of course thought was ridiculous at the time, but now I realise he was right.
Some time afterwards, I met my own “Mr Big.” It was hard for a country girl like me to make friends in the city. If you didn’t go to the right private school people did not want to know you. But this guy was cool and he knew all the right people in all the fun places. If you ask him, we were never actually dating, which we did very well for about three years.
During the periods when I was single I dated a lot of different guys. I never had a list and would give anyone a chance. I had pretty much given up on relationships entirely when I met my husband to be. After ten years of dating in Sydney which is 70% gay and 25% selfish arrogant boys, I was over it, happy to stay single and seriously considering becoming a lesbian. Until I remembered that women can be super annoying too. And isn’t that always the point when you meet a man who belongs to that elusive 5%?
What I have learnt about relationships:
- Relationships are all about compromise. If you don’t want to do this, then don’t be in one
- There is no right one for everyone, but many different people that could be the right one and a hell of a lot of good timing for both parties involved
- I don’t buy the whole if it’s meant to be it will happen one day or if you love someone set them free and they will come back to you. If you want to be with someone you make it happen
- Nobody really knows what goes on between two people in a relationship, except those two people in that relationship
- If I was single now I think I would give internet dating a go. It beats meeting people in noisy bars and if everyone is honest with their profile and what they are looking for I think it is a good way to make a start.