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Memory

Memory is a funny thing.

As a positive thinker, I usually only remember the good things about a place I’ve visited.

I forget the hours that we waited for a bus or how sore my feet got walking to a place, and just remember the wonderful monument that we saw when we got there or the cold drink that we consumed at the end of a walk.

The inconveniences that happened along the way become funny travel anecdotes that add humour to the story.

Perhaps there is a danger in always thinking the best of places. I often have to keep my expectations in check so as not to become disappointed with a return trip to a destination that I have visited before.

But almost always, the place is as good as I remember it to be and often better.

The times that it has not been so, is usually when key people have been missing. You know- the ones that made the place fun to begin with, or the people that were there for a pivotal time in your life.

Time and people can’t always be recreated, but a place can always be re visited, even if the place has changed. And this can prompt happy memories along with the creation of new memories with new people.

Maybe only remembering the positives is idealistic and blocking out all the bad stuff is bad for your mental health, especially if it all comes back later to haunt you. But I would rather remember the good times and the fabulous feeling of a place than be sad that time has moved on places have changed.

Returning to a place that I remember is like opening the first page on a book I’m re reading. I know the plot and the gist of the story, but I can’t remember the details and how I got to the end. I feel at ease, but enjoy discovering the little bits that make up the whole and discovering new journeys- kind of like a choose your own adventure book (children of the 80’s will remember those!).

At the end of the day, nobody can tarnish your memories unless you let them, except for yourself. They are your own personal memories and wouldn’t you rather have good ones?

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Good vs Evil

In the fight between good and evil, good always wins right?

But who has more fun?

Sure good is good, right, moral and proper and all that.

But evil is devilish, wrong in all the right ways and fun.

Otherwise why would tempted by and drawn to the evil?

In fairy tales, good always wins. The evil witch is defeated and the princess bags her prince.

But real life isn’t a fairy tale. Sometimes the bad guys do win, the evil witch never gets her comeuppance and you never find your prince.

So what are you going to do about it?

Believe in karma and that the bad guys will eventually lose?

Try to ignore the evil witch, forget about finding your prince and get on with life?

Or keep believing in fairy tales and hoping and searching until good prevails?

Obviously, I have posed more questions than answers in the fight between good and evil, but I guess that the whole point.

Nothing and nobody is inherently good or evil. We all have both in us and can change at any time depending on mood.

So, next time the bad guys win, think about the fact that perhaps their point of view is not really bad- just different.

And next time that witch is evil, just remember that she is still a person with some sort of heart that probably just got up on the wrong side of the bed (not that that gives them the right to treat you badly- but that’s just the way it is).

Finally, if you don’t find your prince, enjoy all that life has to offer as a single princess, after all Elizabeth the first never married and she ruled!

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