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Work, work, work

“Just because someone doesn’t see your worth, it doesn’t lessen your value.”

I heard this quote the other day and it really rang true for me.

I have always been a hard worker, hate sitting in the office doing nothing and will tackle just about any task.

But just because you are a hard worker, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will get the promotion. Often lazy people who do nothing, but just know who to network with, are the ones that seem to get ahead. Maybe I am the one doing it all wrong?

I also don’t need recognition for my hard work, much preferring to do the behind the scenes work and have everything run so smoothly that it appears seamless.

But by being this way, I run the risk of others taking credit for my work. And by making it look easy, others don’t realise just how much work has gone into it and see my worth.

When hard work is not valued, it can lead to demotivation and mystification. Sometimes I really don’t understand why some people get away with things that I would be fired for.

For me, I guess that hard work has to be it’s own reward because I couldn’t adjust my personal standards anyway. Does this earn me respect in the short term? Perhaps not.

But in the long run, I think I am better off. I can see the tangible results of my hard work and feel like I have achieved something at the end of the day. Perhaps not the smartest move, but the happiest for me.

So maybe my worth won’t be recognised everywhere, but when the right people see my value, then their value rises too. And I would much rather be around people who share the same values. That’s just human nature right?

It’s why we choose the partners that we do, have the parents that we have and raise our children to be a certain way.

And you can bet that I will be teaching my daughter the value of hard work, so that that the right people can see her worth, and she has the option to stand on her own two feet whenever she needs to.

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New Beginnings

At the moment, I am in the process of leaving the job I have been in for the longest in my career for a new role in a different industry, and it got me thinking about new beginnings.

New beginnings are exhilarating and exciting. Who knows what I will discover about myself, what new skills I will learn and whom I will meet?

Serial monogamists know what I’m talking about. Everything at the beginning of a relationship is perfect. There’s your first date, your first kiss, even your first difference of opinion is a milestone. Nothing is tarnished and life is good.

But once the shiny fades, and it is inevitably discovered that your new beau isn’t perfect, the temptation to leave and find another new beginning arises. It’s addictive.

However, if you stick around, you may discover that you’re not perfect either, that your imperfections balance each other out and end up with something more real. Something with depth and long-term prospects.

But at the end of the day, if you have tried for a new beginning in the familiar and your heart just isn’t in it anymore, it may be time to quit and go for a new beginning on the outside- especially if your happiness depends on it.

New beginnings in life can be scary, but they can also be interesting. One new beginning could change the course of your life forever. And isn’t that what this experience called life is all about?

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I’m happy for you

We say this all the time- to our partners, our parents, our friends and even our enemies.

But are you really happy for them? Or just jealous and this is a nicer way of saying it?

And quite frankly, to paraphrase Seinfeld- I’m happy for you, but what is it really doing for me?

But you can’t not say it can you?

You are expected to be happy for the newly engaged/newly pregnant/new home owners/new job getters even if a) you don’t want these things for yourself and/or b) your life is really shite at the moment.

So you smile, and say it, even though on the inside you are mentally taking a journey on what the implications of this news is for you.

Sure, I’m happy if my friends are happy, but how do you know if someone is really happy?

I guess you can only go on what people tell you and hope they are being honest with themselves and with you.

So, what is happiness?

Wikipedia states that it is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

The one I remember from high school Society and Culture studies is Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Needs are psychological (physical bodily needs), safety, social (love and belonging), esteem (respect) and self-actualisation (values and morals).

So maybe by saying “I’m happy for you” we are actually performing an act of esteem by being respectful of others.

And really, there’s nothing wrong with that I suppose? If respect is returned to fulfil your needs. Or is that an ultimately selfish notion?

Ok, we got a bit deep there! Just be happy I say and the rest will follow.

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